Tuesday, September 4, 2007


I just have to say that I don't get it, I just don't get it. I've been tired before, I've stayed up for 18 hours. I've been grouchy, caught off guard, confused, angry, and exhausted. I've told jokes that have gone wrong. But I've never gone off on someone using anti-gay slurs. I don't know, is it too judgmental to say that maybe that type of thing just shows a person's true colors? I can't imagine a situation where I would suddenly pull something like that out of the bag. Unless it was already in my heart. Ugh. Ugly and hateful. Shameful.


  1. i don't really think that using slurs necessarily mean that a person is a bad person. i think that sometimes, in the heat of the moment, people need to lash out and using a slur is an outlet.

    i think that we should be forgiving, in general. however, regardless of the person giving the slur, the object of the slur will get hurt. so they (we) should be responsible for the consequences...

  2. It's unfortunate, but when you're angry and tired or whatever, it's easier to say something that you know will have a sting, at least temporarily.

    Even this homo is guilty of doing what you did -- which always causes a slight, awkward moment.

  3. Gosh, you guys are such better people than I am! Consider me humbled. I get the point that maybe it's not what is really in a person's heart, but what they think will sting the most. It's ugly, but it's true.

    But I have to say - it wasn't me, it wasn't me! It was Jerry Lewis!

  4. If it really bothers you, you could let that person know that that is not you. Tell them that for a moment Jerry Lewis took over your body and that only if they could of heard what you were saying to him! :)

    I know you're not like that otherwise you might have left a comment on my blog like, "Listen hear you Aussie homo homo sapien..." lol

  5. it's difficult to see the ugly side of someone, isn't it?

  6. There is never a reason or excuse to be unkind to someone else. Even though we've all done it before and probably will do it again. We are 100% responsible for our own actions.

  7. Maybe some of it is catharsis. The person has a lot of negative energy inside and it needs to come out somehow. Unfortunately, they chose a way that can hurt someone else. It might not be their true colors, though. Yes, they might say it, but perhaps they might also reach out to said person in a different context?

  8. gosh, i have to say that i am in that exact spot. my heart doesn't involve gay-related slurs, but i am having to take a hard look at what is in my heart that so easily slips out my mouth in other realms.

    it IS difficult to see the ugly side of myself - I agree w/sizzle...but i think the "worse" thing for me would be to not take notice at all.

    i am 100% responsible for my actions 100% of the time, no doubt.
    i only hope that somewhere along the line of this journey i find the grace to kindly & honestly deal with myself. perhaps in that, i will deal kindly & honestly with others, and "ugliness" will slowly disappear...